Set Theory

Back to the topic at hand, we were discussing whether she's alone or with friends. In the pickup artist community this is referred to as a set. Two women together is a 2-set. Three is a 3-set. Can you guess what four women together is called? The reason this is important is that the bigger the group, the more intimidating it can be to approach. But the bigger the group, the easier it can be to achieve success. Crazy, right? But it's true more often than not. That's because the bigger the group is, the scarier it is to everyone. So they are being approached much less than that attractive woman sitting by herself at the bar, who IS being approached every two seconds.

In set theory, you approach the group and initially ignore the woman that you're interested in, while focusing on everyone else. You might "neg" her from time to time, saying things like, "is she always like this?" You have to win over the group before you focus on the woman you're interested in. Then you build attraction and comfort with her, and get into "kino", all concepts we'll be discussing later.

So that's set theory in a nutshell. There's more to it, some of which drifts into territory I'd rather not explore. In particular, some men will approach a woman and if he decides he isn't into her, will use her as a "pawn". This means he'll approach a group with her on his arm as a means of instant validation.

Obviously, I don't condone using people this way.

Learn to approach without using or hurting other people. You'll feel better about yourself and become a more attractive person to others.

The point to take away from all this is you need to be aware that there is a different dynamic if she's alone, with one friend, or with many, and you need to be attuned to that. You can succeed in any of these situations without using "negs" and without using a "pawn". Use the techniques I'm going to teach you in the chapters ahead. If there are other people with the woman you are interested in, definitely connect with them too and make them your friends before focusing your attention on the woman you like. You don't need to "neg" her for this to work. Just be a naturally social person to the whole group before you make your intentions more obvious.