Where and when to meet women
If we're going to meet women, we need to go where they are. Sound simple? Of course, but there's more to it than that. Where you meet a woman and what she's doing when you first encounter her is going to affect our approach. So it's worth thinking this through. The variables we need to consider when approaching a woman are:
• Where is she?
• Why is she here?
• Is she busy?
• Is she bored?
• Is she sitting, standing, walking, running?
• What time of day is it?
• Is she in a situation where she'll feel safe if approached by a stranger?
• Is she alone or with friends?
That's a lot to keep in mind, so that's why we're going over it now. Then you can keep it all in the back of your mind without getting stuck analyzing it all the time. We'll have more important things to think about during the approach. So let's do the brainwork now, absorb it all, and move on.
Assess the situation
Where is she and why is she here?
There are lots of places you already go in your day-today life. Make a list of the ones that have lots of women. There are other places you don't currently go, but could. Which of those would be good places to meet women? The mall, bar, gym, park, museum, dance class, and cooking class are all possibilities. Think about indoor spaces and outdoor spaces. Where are you more comfortable? Why are you there? Why is she there? If it's a cooking class, for example, you won't feel the pressure to explain your presence, and you'll automatically have an excuse to talk, and something to talk about. That's pretty ideal. You'll also know that you share an interest. Sounds pretty good, right? Contrast that with walking up to the hot babe at the ATM machine. She's probably not interested in talking at the moment, and your approach is likely to make her nervous. Not good.
Where you meet a woman and the reason she is there are important considerations. People go to bars to be social, to the gym to work out, and to the museum .. . well, that could be a mix of wanting to see art and hoping Mr. Right will magically appear. Sometimes you know, sometimes you can guess, and sometimes it's completely up in the air. The point is you need to assess the situation you are already in, and think up situations you could be in that might increase your odds of success.
Is she busy or bored?
The woman at the ATM is busy. The woman drifting through the museum might be bored; you'll have to read her body language for that one. The woman just sitting on the train with nothing to read staring off into space is almost definitely bored. Which one is more likely to welcome a conversation? Start thinking about these things, they make a huge difference. Granted, you might be wrong. The woman at the bookstore with her nose buried in a book might be bored out of her mind.