Keeping the ball rolling
Flirting through email and texting
If you have her email address you can send her an email if you have her cell phone number, you could text her. Either way, I would approach it the same way as the phone call until the first meeting. Keep it light and breezy.
But after the first meeting, you can use email and texting as a great way to flirt with her between phone calls and meetings. There is a different dynamic to email and text messages, it feels more anonymous, so you can get away with a more flirty tone. Ease into it and see if she responds. If not, back off and continue with the light and breezy approach. But if she does, this is a great way to get into some very sexual topics in a fun and non-threatening way. Just don't expect her to be the same way on the phone or in person. Think of each medium as a way of exploring a different side of her personality.
The next meeting
So it's finally the day you planned to get together. By the way, you've probably noticed I don't call it a date.
You shouldn't either. The word "date" is too loaded with luggage and negative connotations for so many people. Just hearing the word can raise your blood pressure. You are not going on a date. You are getting together. You are meeting. No big deal. It's what humans do.
So anyway, it's the day of your get together.
Let's say you're meeting for dinner. Hopefully you picked someplace low key, comfortable and fun, not stuffy, intimidating, and expensive. You get there on time and she's not there yet. Should you:
A. Panic
B. Start sweating profusely
C. Run out the door screaming
D. All of the above
Choose wisely.
Ok, time is up, the correct answer is E. None of the above. Hey, no fair, that wasn't one of the choices.
Well, if you've been meditating every day, you should be enlightened enough to know that sometimes you have to think outside the box. Just one more benefit of meditating. Remember the old monk who carried the woman across the stream? You thought that was just a story about not attaching, but it was also a story about not getting stuck in a rut, allowing yourself to live in the moment and act with compassion in that moment.
Be flexible.
I'm really getting off track here. Ok, you're on time, she's late. What do you do? Come on, Zen boy.
Picture yourself at the restaurant. It's filled with people.
Maybe there's even a bar. Maybe there's a cute hostess.
Maybe there's a table full of interesting women. If there's anyone who still hasn't figured out the answer raise your hand.
Yes, you talk to people. You can talk to women, men, couples, whoever you want. Why? Two reasons.