Meeting women online

Think about some funny or crazy thing that happened to you recently. Call her up and tell her about it. Then make plans to meet somewhere. You can throw a time constraint in there.

For example, "hey, I'm having fun talking but I have to go. We should continue this conversation at (local bar or diner). But I can only meet for 30 minutes ... in case you turn out to be a psycho." This obviously should be said in a playful way. You can leave off the last part if it doesn't feel natural to the dynamic.

It's a great idea to already have planned something to do after you meet with her. Some party you want to go to, or a gallery opening, or whatever.

Then after you've met her at the bar or diner and talked a while, you can say, "I was planning on doing (whatever) right now, you're kind of cool, why don't you tag along?"

Keep in mind, I'm not recommending this approach. I would much prefer that you meet women in real life and follow the steps I layout in this book for doing so. In fact, we're about to get to approaching women in the real world in the next chapter. But for those who also want to explore the online world, these guidelines will substantially improve your chances of going from the virtual world to the real world, where you can make a real and meaningful connection.

Putting it all together

So we're about to delve into what you say when you approach a woman, but first it was important to think about where and when it makes sense to approach. As you go through the rest of your day, look around you and notice which women seem approachable and which ones don't. Why? Is it possible that some of the ones you deemed unapproachable actually could be approached at another time or place? If someone looks busy, is she really, or is she just killing time? Maybe she'd love to have a conversation instead of sitting around reading her magazine. You'll never know unless you approach. And that's what we're about to do.

Assignment # 7

Be aware of time, place, and whether the vibe is right for an approach.