Relationships: making them last
Communicating, listening, relating, and staying open to change and growth will make the relationship healthier and more enjoyable. And remember, if she tells you about a problem she's having, don't jump into problem solver mode. Have empathy for her, listen and relate. Being there for her means being aware of her feelings, not trying to solve every problem she encounters. This includes times when the problem is you. If she complains about something you did, she might be looking for you to acknowledge that you weren't paying attention to her feelings, rather than you saying some specific way to avoid that specific problem in the future. Be aware that she might be using a specific example to point out a broader issue. Yes, sometimes it seems like women are speaking in code, but if you follow the advice in this book you will break the code. You will be listening not just to her words, but to the feelings and emotions behind those words.
Learn this one trick, and your interactions with most women will go smoother. And your relationships too.
Not that it's all going to be smooth sailing. It's not. But that's where daily meditation gives you an advantage. Having that time each day to remove yourself from a tight focus on the crisis of the moment, and to open to a broader context and dwell in that sense of being, that is what helps you to gain insight and see new ways of resolving conflicts.
Not all relationships will be a success, but it's possible to transition from lovers to friends rather than going from lovers to haters. The closeness you've built up with the other person doesn't have to be thrown away. If instead of "breaking up" you are just changing the intensity and nature of the relationship, it can mean less pain for everyone. That might sound like I'm just playing with words or making euphemisms, but in practice it really is possible for an intimate relationship to end without the underlying relationship ending or turning negative.
For those relationships that just keep going and growing, always keep in mind those things that drew you to her and her to you in the first place, and keep those things alive. The world can be a nasty place at times, it's nice to know there's someone on your side.
Be that person.
Remember, you're coming from an abundance mindset. You chose her because she's special, not out of neediness. There are a lot of great women out there, but she had that extra something special. Let her feel that.