Where and when to meet women

This will break the flow of the interaction, and discourage you from trying in the future. Just go up and interact with the group, and follow the steps with the woman of your choice that will be discussed later. Keep the whole group engaged, but let her know she is the focus of your attention.

If you do want to try "negging," make sure it's done in a playful manner. The point isn't to insult her or put her down. The point is to have fun and show that you're not scared to interact in a playful way.

Another version of the same concept is what's called "cocky and funny." This method, made famous by David DeAngelo, involves acting both-yes, you guessed it-cocky and funny. Cocky without the funny is just obnoxious. Too much funny without the cocky turns into you entertaining her, like a clown. And as DeAngelo likes to point out, clowns don't get laid. Not often anyway. The cocky and funny style is similar to treating her like your bratty little sister who you love but gets on your nerves. If any of this sounds intriguing, I suggest you look up David DeAngelo on the internet.

Or just Google "cocky and funny" and see what you find. The power of this approach is it keeps her guessing. Are you hitting on her or not? Are you interested in her or not? Maybe you're just a really sociable guy who talks to and jokes around with everyone. It's disarming and it's fun, if done correctly.

So why don't I teach cocky and funny in this book? Not everyone is good at acting cocky and funny, and they end up trying to be something they're really not. The style I'm teaching involves what I'll reluctantly call a more natural approach. I'm reluctant to call it that because it sounds like a value judgment, which I don't mean it to be. It's the approach I prefer and one that I think will work for more people, but that doesn't mean you have to agree with me. Some people are naturals when it comes to acting cocky and funny, others just aren't cut out for it. See what works for you. If the Zen approach works, great. If you want to try something like "negging" or cocky and funny, go for it. Mix and match. Take what works and discard the rest. Use what feels congruent with who you really are. If you really are a cocky and funny kind of guy, then use that part of your personality. Just remember to keep it fun rather than insulting. There is no one best style to use for meeting women that will apply equally to all men.

There are many styles out there. The ones that feel right to you probably are right for you.