Keeping the ball rolling

Every time you take her to a new place, it will just build more comfort and a stronger bond. You'll feel like you've known each other longer and have a history together. This helps you relax and be yourselves around each other. Cool, huh?

The next next meeting

Make sure that whenever one meeting ends, you are making plans for the next one. This avoids all manner of problems later on. You've built rapport, now is the time to bridge to the next meeting. Don't wait for a phone call later in the week, when you'll have to start from scratch before you get around to making plans.

One way to do this and escalate things at the same time is to say, "Hey, if we're both free next weekend, maybe we should get together." Make the plans, then say, "That's gonna be a lot of fun. Till then, I'll give you a kiss to remember me by." Judging by her reaction, this could be a peck on the cheek, a kiss on the lips, or tongue gymnastics.

When you do get together the next time, there is no need to amp things up in terms of activities. In other words, if you ate at a greasy diner last time, you don't have to go to "Chez Expenseev" tonight. The best activities are things you just happen to be doing anyway, so there isn't so much pressure. So, if you're going to the local car dump to look for a part you need on your '78 Pinto, invite her to come with you. If you're taking your dog to run around on the beach, ask if she wants to join you. I'm not suggesting you invite her to join you for every boring moment of your life. What I am suggesting is that you don't need to do traditional "date" activities. Maybe you're going shopping at a really cool Asian supermarket you heard about, or plan on going to a book reading at a local bookstore.

Whatever it is, it can be turned into a fun activity to be shared. Don't get stuck in the restaurant, movie, bar rut. There are other things to do that will be more fun and less pressure.

Hey, this is easy!

At this point, it's tempting to coast a little. Don't do it.

Keep being a good listener. Keep relating to what she's saying. Keep building rapport. You are building something special every time you're with her. This never ends. If that sounds like work, see how it feels when you're actually doing it. With the right woman, you'll want to keep relating, you'll want to know her better and better. It should be fun, but you should be putting your creative energy into it every time you're together. Things will fizzle if you start taking her for granted. You need to keep this thing alive and growing, and that takes energy. But it's worth the effort. The more you put in, the more you'll get out. You could sit on your couch eating Hohos and watching TV, or you could be meeting the woman of your dreams and growing closer to her. Your choice.