Heya guys! I’m off to Vegas and then Dallas to do some talks on game.
Anyone got any cool ideas of where to go when I’m there? I’ve been to Dallas but haven’t been to Vegas before and have no idea what’s cool.
AFC Acmereptile
So I’m seeing this Texan girl. Hell! I’m in Texas at the moment. Read the rest of this entry »
I was teaching a student today and something clicked. Something big. We were talking about opening sets and I suggested going into HMV to talk to girls about the DVDs they were buying just to get practice talking. He then said something which I’ve heard many times before.
“I’m not interested in the DVDs they’re looking at though”
Then it hit me. I am.
The difference between me and this guy was that I am genuinely interested in other people. The DVDs they buy, the clothes they want, making fun of them, making them laugh.
These are all things that interest me. I have no problem approaching because my fear of approach is less than my desire to interact with someone.
My students fear is higher than his desire to interact with the girls, purely because he has little desire to actually talk to this girl. Yes, he wants to fuck her, but no he doesn’t want to interact with her. Read the rest of this entry »
Ok, you want to meet women. Why? What’s the objective? A friend, girlfriend, someone to have sex with, someone to go see a movie with, someone to show your comic book collection to, someone to marry?
Think this over and dig down. What is it that you hope to achieve? Once you decide what you want, the next step is to ask why you want that. What will it give you?
Why is that important to you? These might seem like silly questions, but if you really ask them deeply and take the time to answer them, everything I’m going to teach you about how to meet women will make more sense. You’ll know why you’re doing this. You’ll know what your motivation is. And this will keep you from stopping halfway through the process. If you keep your eyes on the prize, you’ll have an easier time getting it.
That doesn’t mean, by the way, that you attach to your goal and obsess over it. Rather, it gives you a direction to travel in. With each step you move closer to your goal, but each step itself is a part of the journey and should be appreciated. Live your life now, not in some imagined future.
So let’s break this down. What is your objective? If you really follow through with the Zen of meeting women, you are going to meet a lot of women. A lot. You’ll have lots of conversations, get lots of phone numbers and email addresses, and have the opportunity to continue from there. But that is not an end in itself. Read the rest of this entry »
This is a vast topic, but I’m not going to spend much time on it. I think you’ll improve your skills much faster if you push yourself to meet women in the real world.
That said, a lot of women use online dating services to meet men. There’s no harm in putting your profile on a few of these and seeing what happens. If you choose to do this, I have a few quick tips.
When you create your online profile, don’t try to impress her. This is what every other guy is doing.
You want to stand out. Be a character. Create a profile that is an amped up version of yourself, without sounding like you’re bragging. If anything, the online profile is one place where coming off like a selfish jerk or like you’re trying to drive her away can be a good approach. Keep in mind, I’m not suggesting that you actually be a selfish jerk, that’s just the game you’re playing with your profile. Her reaction will be, is this guy for real? This negative approach will often get more responses than the more obvious bragging approach. If you don’t believe me, create two profiles, one that’s more straightforward and one that’s more of a caricature. See what really works. Read the rest of this entry »
We should also discuss whether you’re alone or with friends. Approaching women with a friend has its advantages, especially if she’s with friends. Your friend can act as your “wingman” and keep her friends busy while you focus your attention on the woman you really like. But if there’s just one woman, approaching with your friend might be a bit odd. Depends on your friend.
If he understands his role, he can help. But if he’s hitting on the woman you’re interested in, that is not good. Or if he’s insulting you, that’s not good either. A good wingman only says positive things about you, and you about him. You build each other up. He does your bragging for you.
If you have a friend who is interested in meeting new women with you, take him along and see how he does. Is he a help or a hindrance? I’d suggest having him read this book first so you’re both “on the same page.” Yes, not only did I just make a bad pun, but I put it in quotes to make sure you didn’t miss it. I am truly shameless. Let’s move on.
If you prefer to go it alone, that’s fine. Read the rest of this entry »