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Hey guys, As you know, it’s better to leave people in a better state than when you found them. Easier said than done right? I always quote my favourite theorist, Mr. Peter Parker. “With great power comes great responsibility”

How can we leave girls feeling better about themselves if we use them for sex? Well it all comes down to a question of telling the truth. You aren’t using someone if they know the score from the beginning. It may come as a shock to many of you, however; GIRLS LIKE SEX.

Scary, but true. They just don’t want to get lied to.

So here’s a little something I say to girls to let them know I’m not looking for a relationship. You need to say it and genuinely be willing to walk away without her. I find that 90% of the time the girl will stay interested and you’ll sleep with her anyway.

They may not like it, they may not agree. They will appreciate the honesty and if you have sufficient attraction you’ll probably still get the lay.

The following text was sent in response to the statements below.

AFC AdamLondon: I’m bad.

HB: You can’t be that bad. Explain.

AFC AdamLondon: I’m simple really. I’m not really a relationship kind of guy. I don’t offer anything beyond good fun, some nights out and occasionally great sex. If you can’t handle that then I’m not the guy to talk to, you’re better off finding someone else. I don’t bullshit, I tell it as it is.

Hope this helps.

AFC Acmereptile

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Theories to discuss… gaming without adding value: September 24, 2007

Hey guys, here’s a question for you to think about.

Is it possible to game a girl without adding value? Like can you take someone to bed without displaying any form of DHV?

Are there other forms of DHV beyond wealth, violence – (think AMOG, natural types), knowledge?

I’m starting to believe that there may not be.

AFC Acmereptile

Sigmund Freud himself believed that these anxious feelings were created by an association between a past negative experience and the current situation. These associations are often false and not related through causality – the idea that one situation directly affects another, but through correlation – one thing “tends to affect another over repeated attempts”.

When people begin to see this correlation as a fact, it is commonly referred to as “Magical thinking”.

There are two governing principles behind magical thinking.

The first is the law of similarity. The notion that things that resemble each other are casually connected in some way that defies scientific testing.

For example:

Here people will typically see vertical columns of squares and circles as opposed to horizontal mixed rows of squares and circles.

The second law is the Law of Contagion, which is the belief that “things that have been in physical contact or in spatial or temporal association with other things retain a connection after they are separated.” Contagion effects have been noted to be more effective with negative associations than with positive ones. This is probably best explained by the notion of getting “bad luck” or having a bad time every time you go to a specific venue.

Freud believed that the anxiety or fear was maintained through a form of operant conditioning. Essentially the feeling of anxiety is reinforced everytime you are in a similar situation.

You then “learn” to remove the negative feeling of anxiety by not approaching. These connections of patterns or “magical thinking” are common throughout all the human societies across the world. The human brain is adept at forming these patterns, though we do not have a particularly good system for distinguishing between real and perceived connections.

Theoretically this is due to a simple survival tactic. If we notice rustling behind a bush it is better for us to assume it is some form of threat and begin to prep our bodies to defend ourselves, rather than ignore it and risk being eaten.

Our fear or anxiety response is actually designed to help us survive in a fight or flight scenario. Believe it or not, the symptoms detailed earlier are all beneficial to us in times of survival. Perspiration occurs to help cool us down, heart rate increases to improve blood circulation, muscles tighten as they are filled with oxygen in preparation for use. Unfortunately these are not particularly beneficial when we are looking for something witty to say during a conversation with someone.

In short we learn the fear through a number of negative experiences and then reinforce them by not doing anything about it. The body’s natural reaction towards a fearful situation is the feeling we associate with approach anxiety or the fear of the approach. The way to overcome this is to reverse the learning.

All of the common problems detailed above can be directly related to either “magical thinking” in the form of a false belief that failure is almost certain due to some form of connection to a previous situation that failed or pure fear learnt and reinforced by not approaching. These are both forms of self fulfilled prophecy. Unless you actively do something to fix it they will continue to support themselves. The good news is that this problem is far from unfixable.

The bad news is that it does take time. The easiest way to fix this is to actually go out and meet new people. The problem is that when you do this, any negative experience you receive is likely to reinforce the previous attitude or fear you had before.

As I’ve mentioned before one of the easiest ways to get around this is to simply meet people for the sake of meeting people.

Most of us are actually more than happy to talk to other people, especially on boring long journeys or when waiting in a long queue. Get used to talking to absolutely everybody, male or female, young and old. This should help you generate a great deal of positive responses to your approaches and help curb some of those negative connections.

I hope this helps guys. As usual, if there are any questions, just ask.

AFC Acmereptile